The Abstinence Clearinghouse Blog

Many people today engage in sexual activity without hesitance. There are some very good reasons to wait until you are married. Here are but a few:

1. Marriage is the most significant relationship in your life. There are stories of people being married 70 and 80 years. This is a lifetime! Your spouse will be the most important person in your life. You must choose wisely and treat that relationship (even if it hasn’t started yet) with respect. Your future spouse will value this.
2. The time between now and your marriage is relatively short compared to the rest of your life. Abstinence shows your willingness to exercise self-control and good judgment.
3. Sex in a relationship creates an artificial intimacy that exposes you to being hurt. It implies respect, honesty, trust and caring but it delivers none of it.
4. Saving sex for marriage frees your marriage from thoughts and experiences with other people
5. Saving sex for marriage allows your spouse to be totally free from thoughts and experiences of you with other people
6. By saving sex for marriage, you make the statement that sex is special and that your spouse will never have to worry about you looking outside your marriage for sex. That creates a stronger bond and more intimacy that you can ever know outside of marriage
7. Abstinence will help you become the right girl for the right guy. The right guy is happy to wait. He is not looking for a quick squeeze. He is looking for someone who will instill good values in his children. Anyone who would not respect your decision in this area will not respect your decisions in other areas.
8. Zero chance of pregnancy and being forced into stressful and life changing decision making
9. Zero chance of contracting curable venereal diseases and pubic parasites
10. Zero chance of contracting incurable viruses such as HPV, herpes and AIDs
11. Exclusive dating is not a commitment. A commitment is a contract before God and society that establishes a bond for life and that you are in all things - good or bad - together.
12. Marriage includes many difficulties and crises including pregnancy, child-rearing, work stress, money problems, and ageing parents. Sex during dating can take on importance so far beyond its actual impact during the most important relationship in your life. Sex also diverts time and emotion away from the most important part of dating: getting to know one another and objectively evaluating the other’s suitability for a continued relationship.

The drive to reproduce is very strong. It is important to develop a plan to help you in sticky situations. Some of the keys to keeping your commitment to yourself are to find people who support your values, to brainstorm on nonphysical ways to show love and affection, to willingly share your values with others and to avoid situations which might prove to be tempting.

Even if you have engaged in sexuality in the past, it’s never too late to revise your position. When you communicate your new sexual code of behavior to people in your life, expect varied reactions from derision and ridicule to new found respect. Your true friends will support you. The most important thing to remember is that you are starting to respect yourself and your future. When the right person comes along and the time is right, you will know that sexuality within the context of your marriage is a precious gift you can share with one another.

Source:  bestarticle.org