The Abstinence Clearinghouse Blog

Why is it that abstinence is portrayed as the most challenging, agonizing decision a person could ever make? It frustrates me how when a kid hits 13, she gets a packet of sex-education materials thrust in her face along with a couple of “safe-sex” videos. Society threw up its hands in surrender a long time ago before it ever even gave kids a chance to make the right choice. “It’s just too hard, we understand.” But could the reason abstinence has such a bad rep, or gets forgotten, be because society tells us it’s hard?
Abstinence is the easy road people! I can tell you what’s hard. It’s hard for a 15 year old to have a preemie baby with no father in the picture. It’s hard for a young woman to walk down the aisle of her wedding knowing she doesn’t have much of herself left to give her husband. It’s hard for a mother to be told her newborn has AIDS, for a young man to find out he’s contracted five STDs in one sexual encounter, for a couple to experience emotional anguish at a break-up after sleeping with one another.
That’s the hard way.
But people never talk about that.
The mind has a lot of power. My track coach used to tell me, “A race is 90% mental …” Society is playing one heck of a mental game on us, my friends. Being that our race of life, our race to happiness, our race to the future is 90% influenced by our mind, it is no surprise that we like to shun what our mind tells us is a struggle, a battle, a difficult task. Society told us that abstinence is the hard way and people’s minds believed it. What if, in this mental strategy, society was to 180 and start telling people the truth…that abstinence is the easy way? What would happen to STDs, abortions, and crack babies? Food for thought.